If you thought the sex talk was awkward when your parents sat you down, wait until you’re the one who has to do it with your own kids.
Ah, yes. When it comes to the topic of sex education, many a parent has debated: “When is the right time?” Parents with older children will tell you that children aren’t little for very long. One minute they’re “too little”, the next minute they’re trying to dress like they have a music video coming out. Parenting little ones is a lot like high school, you wonder if it’ll ever be over and before you know it, it is.
Before we got married, my husband and I had very candid conversations. We married in our mid-thirties after tough failed relationship lessons as subtle as a 2×4 to your face had swatted us around, humbled us and toughened us. In no mood for a repeat of our past mistakes, we kicked the “let’s see how long we can pretend to be perfect” crap-o-la to the curb and got real in a hurry.
It has been said that hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
If you’ve ever struggled with forgiveness, as I most certainly have, you know this is true. I have seen personally and professionally just how devastating the inability or unwillingness to forgive is both emotionally and physically. Some things are so painful, embarrassing or atrocious that they just seem unforgivable.
Harboring hurt, upset and even rage will be detrimental to your health, but forgiveness can do just the opposite. This is not my opinion, although I can tell you from personal experience how true it is, it is a medical fact. In short, learn to forgive, it’s imperative for your health.
Not to overgeneralize, but most people fall into one of two categories at the beginning of the Christmas season.
There are the Buddy the Elf types: that have their tree up before the turkey is finished from Thanksgiving, think you can never have enough glitter or tinsel, and are determined to spread Christmas cheer like they are the Dallas cheerleaders of the North Pole. The other group, the Grinches, think that Christmas music played at the beginning of November is akin to Chinese water torture, will gladly tell you exactly how capitalism is ruining Christmas, and just want to smack everyone in red or green until about mid January.
If only preparing for the Holidays was as fun and stress-free now as it was when we were kids.
It often seems like there is an endless list of tasks that need to be checked off and “perfect” gifts to buy. Compound that with crowds everywhere you need to be and a huge spike in sugar intake—and you have the perfect recipe for burnout.
Here are just a few things you can do to ease up on yourself this holiday season:
The holiday season is here again. It starts a solid month before Halloween and it doesn’t let up until after Valentines Day. For nearly 5 months you will be tempted by sweets and treats that are riddled with food dyes. One of the most common food additives, food dyes, pose dangerous risks to your family’s long term health.
According to the Center for Science in the Public Interest (CSPI), “The three most widely used dyes, Red 40, Yellow 5, and Yellow 6, are contaminated with known carcinogens … Another dye, Red 3, has been acknowledged for years by the Food and Drug Administration to be a carcinogen, yet is still in the food supply.”
On Sunday, my family was invited to a barbecue pool party. But, as is typical in Florida, it started to rain. Unlike the rest of the other sensible adults, who got out of the pool and dried off, I stayed in the pool for another 30 to 45 minutes with the children while the weather turned cooler and it rained even harder. Suffice it to say, that evening I started getting a sore throat and started to feel phlegm gathering faster than a pack of guys at a free bar buffet.
When I woke up the next morning, I didn’t feel any better. In fact, I felt worse.
1.) Go To Bed At The Same Time As Your Spouse (hint, hint)
If you are like me, you may be guilty of packing your husbands and kids off to bed so you can get your zombie on in front of the TV or bury your nose (and all thoughts about the pile of dishes in your sink) in a good book. Many a mom has allowed the sweet nectar that is Downton Abbey to lull us back to sanity after the fam hits the sheets. However, going to bed together allows for much needed adult time (bow chicka wow wow) and zombievision isn’t doing your complexion any favors.
Today, many of us celebrate Easter, arguably the greatest act of humility ever witnessed. If Jesus showed us our infinite value by His sacrifice and victory over death, why then do so many of us still struggle with vacillating between self-deprecation and pride?
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been known on to occasion to think or even say “I’m a bad mom.” (OK, maybe even several times this week.) How many of us have looked at ourselves in the mirror and thought, “I need to lose weight.” (Especially after a baby.) Maybe on a dark day you’ve even thought “Nobody likes me.” (Yep, been there too.)
Whenever I’m feeling overly stressed or tired I start getting a little bit twitchy and decide it’s time for craft project. With the slew of comic book movies coming out right now, I decided to do something to delight my inner geek, Mod Podge comic shoes.
When I had two daughters, I knew a certain measure of Disney princess mania was inevitable. However, I was determined to infuse a certain measure of sports, Star Wars, and Marvel Comics appreciation into the mix. So when my girls showed an interest in Thor and Spiderman respectively, I sprang into action.
I’m just going to say it, I didn’t like Frozen, Disney’s latest hit.
I know saying that right now considering the Frozen frenzy is tantamount to mommy treason and may all but guarantee excommunication from a playgroup or a serious unfriending on Facebook, but I have to be honest.
Because of the popularity of Frozen, I was already concerned that I wasn’t going to like it. You see, I’ve always been the weird girl. When other little girls were carrying Hello Kitty and princess Trapper-keepers, mine had a Ferrari F-40 on it. In middle school, when everybody loved the New Kids on the Block, I couldn’t stand them. When other girls couldn’t wait to get their first training bra, I was dreading it.
It has been said that hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. If you’ve ever struggled with forgiveness, as I have, you know this is true.
What you may not know, is that you need to learn to forgive because it is good for your health.
Stanford University has been studying how forgiveness can help people become healthy. According to Dr. Luskin, Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, anger and stress cause cholesterol and blood pressure levels go up, while forgiveness has been shown to lower blood pressure naturally. Anger has also been shown to restrict blood flow, tighten muscles, limit the body’s supply of oxygen, damage our cells, slow recovery from illness and injury, contribute to chronic pain and digestive issues, and even raise our risk of infection, illness and substance abuse.
Every parent knows that the well-timed, on-the-go-snack can mean the difference between making it though your chores unscathed or suffering the public embarrassment of a total toddler meltdown.
So, if you’re looking for an easy way to save your sanity and feed your kids a healthy snack that you can feel good about, read on.
Many of the “fruit snacks” on the shelves today are labeled as “healthy”, when in fact, they are an unhealthy combination of sugar, dyes, artificial colors and synthetic vitamins with no real nutritional value. Why not make your own fruit snacks for your kids that are, brace yourself, made with REAL fruit and nothing else?
Bone broth. Sounds medieval, right? I used to think so. But before we were using sodium-riddled bullion cubs and boxed broths, bone broth is what people made to boost immunity and fertility. Since people weren’t eating processed food before World War 2, no one really needed to heal a leaky gut or detox their liver, but these are also added benefits of this ancient concoction. So before you turn up your nose, ask yourself, would you like to skate though cold and flu season untouched? Would you like to live without joint pain? Could I interest you in healthier skin, hair and nails? Need help getting pregnant? Bone broth can help. Here’s how.